What does it mean to be a real man and a good father?
Young boys usually learn the most from what they see and hear from their fathers. It’s natural for them to want to imitate their dad. Then they begin to learn more from the world view. There are only a few relatively short years a father has to help guide his son into becoming a grown man. Fathers, teach your sons. The role model you are is based on what is in your own heart, and is the blue print that will shape the man your son becomes. Do you want him to follow God, or the world? There is no other choice.
Do you want to teach your son to be dishonest? Let him hear you lie.
Do you want to teach your son to be rude? Let him see you treat others harshly.
Do you want to teach your son to be lazy? Let him see you get others to take care of your messes.
Do you want to teach your son to be undependable? Let him see you change your mind frequently, and not keep your promises.
Do you want to teach your son to be disobedient and defiant? Don’t follow the rules when you don’t feel like it.
Do you want to teach your son to be honest and fair? Then show him how, be honest and fair, be a man of integrity. (1 Kings 9:4)
Do you want to teach your son to be helpful and kind? Then show him how, be a humble man of compassion. (Philippians 2:3)
Do you want to teach your son to be responsible and productive? Show him how, do your own work and help others too. (Isaiah 65:21-23)
Do you want your son to be dependable and trustworthy? Show him how, be a man of good character and be consistent. (Matthew 24:44-46)
Do you want to teach your son to follow Jesus? Then show him how, walk with Christ and your son will follow. (Luke 9:23)
Do you want to teach your son to be a real man? TEACH HIM HOW TO BE LIKE JESUS!
“…but as for me and my house, we shall serve the Lord”. (Joshua 24:15)
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With the invention of the internet and social media, today we literally have the world at our fingertips. And there is a full barrage of information available with it. It can be quite overwhelming at times. On Facebook alone there is a deluge of posts concerning everything from recipes, craft items, baby photos and such, to links to news articles regarding heinous crimes of rape, murder, torture, etc. It is the latter articles I would like to discuss.
In less than 30 minutes this morning, I read 3 different articles involving vile and evil acts committed by different individuals. And while I in no way, shape or form, condone the acts committed, there was something more that bothered me about these stories. It was in the responses left by many of the readers. Responses filled with hate.
Yes, these stories described horrible acts of violence toward innocent humans and animals. And no, I do not think these crimes should be dismissed, ignored, or go unpunished. While reading these stories a very deep sense of sorrow towards the victims was evoked in my heart, and even a sense of just rage. But I have to ask, where should that rage be focused?
I couldn’t help but notice the rage indicated in the readers’ comments. Several of the comments suggested torture, dismemberment and slow and painful death to the offenders. In these comments, the readers were exuding as much violence as the offenders themselves.
Should violence and hate be re-paid with more violence and hate? And will that solve the problem and make the world a better place for us?
The answer is no. It will not change the past, it will not make the future better, and it will not make the present any easier to live in.
The truth is that while it may be a sense of decency in a person’s heart that causes them to feel outraged over an atrocity, if they were to act on that violent rage, that seed of hatred would eventually rot away their soul. It would cause them to become no better than the very thing they hated. And the hatred continues to grow and spread. It will not make anything better, not even for the victims.
As a Christian, I was reminded of three things I have learned from the bible:
- To hate the sin, not the sinner. (James 5:19-20 AMP)
- Do not re-pay evil with evil. (1 Thessalonians 5:14-15 KJV)
- Overcome evil with good. (Romans 12:21 KJV)
Evil was unleashed in the world a long time ago, and it is alive and thriving at an unprecedented rate today. The enemy has many weapons and tactics to use against believers and non-believers alike, aimed directly at our hearts. He knows that if he can cause intense enough emotions in us, then we may stumble and fall into his traps.
I’ll admit, to obey the above three verses is impossible for me, apart from God’s Holy Spirit inside of me. The enemy is very clever in appealing to my sense of justice regarding what is right and fair. But through God’s wisdom I can see where the deceit is also appealing to a false sense of pride. Pride that causes me to think I have a right to sit in judgment over the sin of another. I might try to excuse that pride with thoughts such as, “I may not be perfect, but I’m not as bad as…” or “I could never do such a horrible thing myself”. And those thoughts would lead me to feeling justified in the desire to hate and seek revenge. Basically, I would be putting myself in God’s rightful place in judgment and sentencing.
The idea of forgiving those that would commit such atrocious acts of violence against an innocent being is a very hard concept to swallow. But one thing to consider is this: hate will only teach more hate and it will continue to spread to others. On the other hand, only by showing love can it be taught and spread. And forgiveness is a major part of love. It is the only way we can let go of the hate and overcome the evil.
Perhaps some of you that are reading this do not believe in God. (Don’t worry, I’m not going to try to convert you, that is not my job.) But I ask you to consider this…if you plant a tomato seed, do you expect it to grow cucumbers? Of course not. In the same manner, planting seeds of hate in your heart will not grow anything else but hate and no good can come from it. And if that is all we can show and teach, how can future generations learn anything but to hate more, becoming even more violent themselves? Isn’t inflicting that kind of hatred onto others or the next generation an act of violence in itself?
In conclusion, I ask anyone that might be reading this to consider it for a moment. Do you want to be like those offenders, spreading more violence and more hate? Or do you really want these atrocities to stop? One by one, one day at a time, we can make a difference with our own choices. Only love and wisdom can prevail.
I’ve heard people say that the Bible is old fashioned and out of date, that it doesn’t really apply to our modern times. Really? Check this out:
Seems pretty up to date to me. God’s word is always true, yesterday, today, and tomorrow.
My son likes thinking about this way:
B.I.B.L.E. – Basic Instructions Before Leaving Earth
The more I read my Bible, the more I realize I need Him more!
It’s Friday, and as promised, here is my #TBSU (The Blog Scratchers Union) List:
I pray you all have a fantastic and blessed weekend, with His Holy Spirit in your heart to guide you where He wants you to be. Safe journeys and God bless! – Amber
Don’t change horses: until they stop running.
“For the LORD giveth wisdom: out of his mouth cometh knowledge and understanding.” (Proverbs 2:6)
So much of my life was spent in learning. And learning is a good thing. But at one point, I began to question what I had been studying and was it of any value to anyone? I realized that there were more hours than I cared to think of, wasted in trivial garbage, stuff that didn’t help anyone. Useless stuff taking up space in my head. Then there were some things that could have been helpful, if I had actually done something with the knowledge.
When I began studying God’s Word, I soon realized that there is a difference between wisdom and knowledge. Anyone can gain knowledge, but the wisdom to know how to use it and what to use it for can only come from God.
In a world where knowledge is growing in giant leaps, I pray that we will seek God’s wisdom in what to use this knowledge for. Amen!